Warning Signs of an abusive relationship

Jealousy - The abuser will say that jealousy is a sign of love.
Posessiveness and controlling behavior - The abuser will repeatedly call and ask where he/she has been, get angry when he/she pays attention to someone.
Verbal criticisms and abuse - Ridicule, criticisms, and insults are continual and makes the victim feel degraded and worthless.
Continual checking up on the victim - The abuser may spy or continually check up on the victim and ask for an account of whreabouts.
Social isolation - The victim is isolated from all personal and social resources. This gives the abuser a sense of control.
Violent behaviors when using drugs and alcohol - Many abusers will use drugs and alcohol and become violent. Frequently, they will pressure their dates to use substances as well.
Blame - the abuser will often blame the victim by saying things like: "You asked for it" or "You made me mad."
Threats of suicide - Abusers will threaten to hurt or kill themselves if their partner threatens to break up.
Uses guilt trips - the abuser will frequently say - "If you really loved me, you would..."
Broken promises - They ask for a chance to make up for their behavior, stating that they will change.
Forced sex - Abusers will frequently force their partners to have sex or intimidate him/her so that he/she is afraid to say no.

What to look for